Psyche behind the ‘in laws’ thing!
Psyche behind the ‘in laws’ thing!:
A. Before Marriage:
-Mother in Law (MIL): She is a 13 to 14 years old (mental age) ‘bored’ girl who in the dusk of her life feels utterly miserable. Looking back at her life she stands to have gained nothing except attachment with her kids and ignorance from her husband due to continuous nagging and possessiveness the whole life!
-Daughter in Law (DIL): She is a 13 to 14 years old (mental age) ‘bored’ girl who in the early afternoon of her life eagerly wants someone to end her boredom. She badly needs a change!
-The Son: The Son, in this equation, is a 13 to 14 years old (mental age) ‘bored’ boy who is now very bored and frustrated with wooing women and wants someone permanent in life hoping that she would end his search / craving for women!
-Father in Law (FIL): He is a 13 to 14 years old (mental age) ‘bored’ boy who least bothers! He simply hopes that after his son’s marriage he shall be spared and get some relief!
B. After Marriage:
-Mother in Law: She instructs the DIL to make her happy. And she says, ‘if you are not able to make me happy then I will not let you become happy! I am utterly bored with my life; my son’s marriage was my last hope. No one has ever been able to make me happy (not even your FIL) and you don’t dare let me down’!
-Daughter in Law: She complains to her husband that she was bored in life so she married him and she expects him that he should make her happy. How can she, who is already so bored and empty, make his mother happy?
-The Son: He, already in deep shock over his broken dream, finds that instead of earning a ‘girl friend’ for life he has purchased boredom and anxiety at the cost of his most loved possession, i.e., freedom!
-Father in Law: He utters only three words (that too in his mind): Oh My God!
Moral of the Story:
-Be at peace with yourself. No one outside you can fill the emptiness inside you. That’s simply impossible. If you are filled with love and satisfaction inside, you may try to make others happy too. But first you need to work upon yourself. You see no one but yourself in others.
-Be Happy; don’t depend on others to make you happy. Don’t beg for happiness. You are your best friend. Try to know this best friend within and call him/her and go on a date. Spend some time over coffee and say ‘I love You’ ☺